Learning how to let go or knowing when to let go can be painful or downright frightening, depending on the circumstance. It seems throughout life we do this little letting go dance and as time marches on, the dance steps can become more complicated.
When we were preparing to embark upon our new “nomadic” lifestyle, selling our home and letting go of possessions caused me to catch my breath a time or two. Once I moved beyond some of the initial emotions that this evoked I felt the liberation of unburdening ourselves. Letting go of our “stuff” opened up an entire new world with lots of possibilities. As we began to travel this beautiful country and meet some great people I was reminded of what is truly important, and it became obvious that it wasn’t our “stuff”.
Enjoy the little things for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things. ~ Robert Brault
I found myself reflecting upon this topic as we traveled back to Ohio earlier this week to visit Terry’s folks. I must confess that I envisioned posting about the countryside here and mom’s beautiful gardens but I’ve forgotten the cable necessary to download photos to our computer so perhaps fate is at work here and I was meant to write this instead.
The touchy subject of aging presented itself and we found mom to be receptive; it seemed she wanted to discuss it. We had pursued this topic with her in the past, only to find she was not ready. Now, at age 86, and with dad 92, it is time. That is not to say that she is fully prepared to deal with all the aspects of aging, such as when to give up driving; how can I continue to live on my own should something happen to dad; how not to burden the children; what if one of us becomes ill and must take care of the other; will I outlive my nest egg. All of these signify letting go of independence. Although this is painful to see parents go through, we are thankful that mom is ready to share some of these worries, to let go just a little, allowing her children to be part of the process.
Our thoughts go out to all of you who are dealing with the challenges of aging parents or have this looming on the horizon. May we all be able to let go of our fears and navigate these waters with patience, love, and grace.